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And…it has officially been a hot minute

How I could ever forget that I had this blog is just astonishing.  I’ve missed you soo very much!  I really need to work on my ‘sporadic posting’ issues.  I feel like I’ve had a lot go on, but as any parent can say, it’s truly just the same crap happening over and over again and you just don’t know how to make it stop.

Since last we met, I became employed, I became a mom to a 2 year old, I’ve been working on losing some weight and I’m preparing myself for my first trip without my family.  Now, the employment bit.  I took on a position with my church, Fairwood Community United Methodist Church,  and I’m now the Communications Director.  My position there is new but I do a lot of familiar things like mass email communications, being a web admin, content creator for social networks and typically just advising on different marketing strategies.  It’s a part time job which I can do most of it from home, but it does keep me busy.

Yes, you also read that right: Mom to a 2 year old!  The child turned 2 on April 26th and I don’t know how that happened.  Last I new babyremembered, I was getting pampered after trying to crank out a 7 pounder of a child and then BAM!

birthday boyI have a toddler trying to burn down my house!  Other than all the typical stuff you understand a toddler will do, he’s just always making sure I’m completely and totally out of my skull.  But I wouldn’t change him or any of this.  He’s awesome, he’s perfect for us and he makes my heart want to explode with so much love.

I really don’t know where all this time came and went to.  I’m trying to keep my head together and keep moving forward, but I do get nostalgic sometimes for the moments I may have wished away too soon.  If you are a mom to be or new mom: Though the current time may seem hard, it doesn’t get easier so don’t wish it away.  You will want this quiet time more than you ever thought you would.

I’m still in love with the greatest man that ever happened to me.  Our 2 year wedding anniversary comes up next month and I can report we’ve been a hot item for going on 7 years.  Seriously, life happening in the blink of an eye.  I hope all of you reading this are doing well and keep a handle on your scandals!  Let’s do this again sooner rather than later!

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Stand by your man

And I did just that.  I knew one day I would find myself taking care of my husband in a great time of need, but I thought a) it would be when it was time for his next kidney transplant and b) it would be later in life; not before he was 30.  But we are the Murphy’s Law couple and we keep putting that to the ultimate test.

A little over 3 weeks ago, my son got a pretty nasty cold and passed it on to me.  Once I was over it, we thought it has completely missed my husband.  Boy were we ever wrong!  Apparently we had contracted a virus called CMV.  For most people with a normal immune system, this lovely thing causes minimal symptoms or even just goes dormant.  But for people like Noah with a suppressed immune system, it wreaks MASSIVE havoc on you and you end up in the hospital taking meds that have to be given to you through a midline and come in chemotherapy bags.  Yeah, it’s been an interesting week of caring for my husband in a hospital while sadly dropping my son off with different people every day.  Lucas did GREAT with each and every person and that was the greatest thing I could ask for.

A lot of people kept mentioning how stressed I must be or worn out I must feel.  I didn’t feel any of that.  My husband needed medical help; I didn’t think twice about getting him that.  In fact, I really didn’t think much about what I was doing.  I just wanted the man I love to not be in the pain he was in so I did EVERYTHING I could to make him comfortable.  The only thing that really tore me up was not having daily interaction with our son as a family.  I hurt every morning and every night when I was only spending an hour at a time with our son while I was spending 12 hours a day at a hospital getting my husband to try and mend and driving up and down the dreaded 405 S-curve.  I just wanted my family as a whole again.

Finally, a week after my husband was admitted to the hospital, he was released and I brought him home after an extensive training regarding his at home care and administering his meds.  It was the one wish I wanted for my birthday and I find myself tearing up just thinking that at 27, turning 28, I had grown into this wife and mom who could care less about what I actually DID on my birthday; I just wanted my family to be with me.  I will always stand by my men as they make me the best ‘me’….

My greatest treasures


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First Things First, Introduction

I may come from a generation that has changed up some values, but I hail from the Midwest so I still believe in some core, old school values. Introductions is definitely one of them. Hi, I’m Chrystal. I’m a twenty-something living outside Seattle. I’m a first time homeowner, first time mom to Lucas (who I get to enjoy staying home with, most of the time) and I’m a newly wed to a guy who I had no idea I was looking for, Noah.

I worked in retail for 12 years before taking a ‘break’ and becoming a mom. And I have to admit, being a mom is truly the toughest job I have EVER had. I used to think dealing with people who didn’t understand return policies was difficult! Yet, being a mom is so rewarding; even when I’m so tired, I want to relive the scene from Rocky when he asks his coach to cut his eyes so he can see to fight. But I just chug down a couple cups of coffee to fight off the urge to cut my eyes.

I had been with my now husband for quite some time before we found out we were going to have Lucas. While Lucas was a surprise, he was the best surprise ever. Noah and I were both told, by medical professionals, that having children probably wouldn’t be in our cards. But the moons aligned and we found on August 13th, 2010 (Friday the 13th!) that Lucas had found us and he was going to take our lives down a different path. Now, yes, Noah and I were not married, but like a lot of twenty-something folks, we just never felt the urge to go running down the isle. We were perfectly content in our party-all-the-time state and we felt no need to change it up with a piece of paper. But with Lucas on his way, we decided to get our rears in gear and we went house shopping.

By March of 2011, we bought our first home and Lucas arrived just a couple weeks later. WHEW! CUTTING IT CLOSE! But hey, he was 10 days late and that worked out for everyone. All the grandparents were able to fly in just in time to see him be born and that kid doesn’t even understand how spoiled he is. By the end of June, we were married and The Marner household was official! We may not have gone the route that the general public finds ‘traditional’, but hey, like I said earlier, I come from a generation that has changed up some values. So let’s all get passed the stigma of ‘what’s traditional’ and just live.

I decided to start this blog to put my own voice out there with my take on this whole ‘new homeowner’, ‘new mom’, AND ‘newly wed’ trifecta I’m taking on. While it may seem like a weird, bumpy ride, it’s MY weird and bumpy ride and I’m loving it! I hope you will follow along and enjoy my tidbits that I look forward to sharing with you. Cheers!

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