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Huh, it’s been a whole year?

Now I have had some idea that an anniversary was on the horizon, but wow, come Saturday, I will have been Mrs. Noah Marner for a whole year.  Strange, right?  The two things I’ve learned are: I have indeed met my match AND I can’t believe I thought I had a clue about anything a year ago!

So this time last year, I was in a blur of new mommyhood, settling into our new home and FINALLY getting my act together with this guy named Noah that had been in my life for oh, just a couple of years 😉 .  I still look back and wonder how I was even waking up and functioning each day.  I had the brain of a deranged lunatic!  Now while I’m glad I received the knowledge I did over the course of the past year, I wish someone would have smacked me for being such a naive, idealistic so and so.

As I watch the next batch of new moms and newlyweds come through, I see so much of myself in each and every one of them.  I see all the researching and thinking that they are making better choices than their predecessors and I can’t help but remember thinking all the same things.  Then once I had Lucas and I got married, I realized ‘Why am I reinventing the wheel? It was never broken’.  I sleep a lot better at night just letting my heart and my gut do all my thinking.

I fell in love with this amazing guy years ago and my heart has been the happiest it has ever been.  Everything I have experienced this past year with him, good and bad, I would do it all the same, over and over again.  He makes my days brighter, my smile bigger, my being stronger and my ability to love him and our son greater and greater.  And what blows me away, he feels the same way about me.  He makes me know we never settled; we struggled and fought for one another and now, we see the fruit of our work every day for the rest of our lives.

I’m the luckiest woman to have been chosen by Noah and Lucas and I look forward to many more birthdays and anniversaries to come!

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It takes a village, not just in raising your child

When you get married, you have this blissful ‘newlywed’ stage.  Well, most of the human race does.  I guess I had just been with Noah for so long that after the first week, it was business as usual.  While I do get a little more pitter patter in my heart when I call Noah ‘my husband’ now, I guess I sometimes take for granted the harmonious wavelength we are on.  While we weren’t always such a yin yang, we finally found our niche.  Shockingly, we really like being parents together.  I guess since we did our relationship ‘out of order’ by moving in together rapidly, moving across the country together rapidly, becoming home owners, becoming parents and THEN getting married, we found out we wanted the kiddo factor before getting married (not recommended in all situations, just happened to work for us).

How many times have you heard the phrase ‘It takes a village to….’?  Probably quite frequently as it is really tried and true.  Raising a child is not always easy and neither is having a successful marriage.  You truly need those around you who support the idea of marriage and even more specifically, your marriage, to make your vows last through and through.  You may have to realign some people and situations in your life to make this work, but if you are as committed as you said during your vows, this should not be so tough.  The reason for all the (positive) influence is so that in heated times, you have some clearer eyes to see something you are missing.  Same reason it’s important to listen to those around you who have children while you are in the newborn blur.  You will never have 20/20 vision in highly-emotional times and if you overreact, the mean fireworks are never good. (They are not as pretty as a well choreographed grand finale, but in YOUR mind, you’ve probably shown up The Chinese New Year.)

While it may not be your favorite idea to listen to those who have walked the line before you and it may not be exactly be what you would do, at least take it in like an informative brochure.  You might not need it now, but man, when the 9.0 quake hits, you’ll be ready.  Just know that just because everything may currently be smooth sailing, there may come a time when the world shifts around you and makes things very unpleasant.  Have that foundation and support around you and you will get through the shaky time quickly and be a better, more reliable couple after that.  It’s the least you can do for that thousands of dollar tab you two rang up celebrating this union, yeah?  In the spirit of Easter, hop to it!

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